Go Get Me A Super Injunction!

With all this talk of Super Injunctions all over the Internet I almost feel that I need one. Actually, in fairness, I maybe should warn a few people that they might need one. After all, I do share quite a few secrets online myself.

I feel sorry for poor Imogen Thomas. After all, I’m sort of in the same situation as her so I don’t think she should be being painted as the home wrecking so and so that some are making her out to be. In all honestly, what has she actually done? Ok, so if you’re the wife of said naughty footballer then you might think differently, but she has openly come out and said that she was in it for love. She didn’t do it to make a few quid from selling her story, or to make a bid for her 15 minutes of fame. She’d already done that, hence why she ended up in the path of a premiership footballer. Now in all honesty, his job title should have raised the red flags to her and run a mile, but she didn’t, and instead she fell in love.

And since when was that a crime? We’ve all done it, me more than anyone, and been charmed by some bloke, who promises you the earth, charms your La Senza g-string off you and before you know it you’re glued to your phone waiting for the next text or call to arrange your next rendezvous. Ok, so maybe we all haven’t done it, but I have so I get to have my say on this one.

So who is at fault? Let’s call a spade a spade here and be under no illusions that this footballer has gone down the legal path he has to protect his family. His wife already knew, and we all know that there is nothing more certain in life than the fact that infidelity will always out. For him, it’s all about the money and protecting his public image, his sponsorship deals and avoiding a very costly, public divorce. Is that a reason to put his other woman through the public humiliation of having her private life dragged through the mill? Is it hell as like!

But, lets also not forget, this guy is a role model to many a male football fan. It seems the norm these days for footballers to have affairs left, right and centre, it gets splashed across the tabloids for a week or two, and then we get another story. The wife forgives them, they go on a luxury holiday and then a few months later she’s pregnant again and they do a four page feature in OK magazine about how happy they all now are and what a terrible mistake it all was.

Sorry, but what part was a mistake or an accident? Was it a mistake when he charmed the girl, probably telling her he isn’t happy at home, but difficult to leave because of close knit family, job, money etc, but he wants to be with her? Was it a mistake when he booked hotel rooms or sneaked round to her place? Was it a mistake when he accidentally fell into bed with her? And if she meant nothing and it was such a terrible mistake, then did he consider his wife’s feelings when he was making this terrible mistake?

I think we know the answer to all of those questions is no. He’s an adult, a fully fledged grown up and quite able to make his own decisions and know right from wrong. So why are we, society as a whole so forgiving? And yes, I speak from personal experience here. I’ve been on both sides. I was on the receiving end when Batman took up with Wicked Witch. But for all the bitterness and anger there at least they’ve stayed together and he didn’t throw away our marriage for “a mistake”. And plenty of other couples have gotten together and become official couples following their affair. They even do it in the royal family. Just look at Charles and Camilla. So I’m not being naïve because couples do emerge from all sorts of different circumstances.

Now look at the ridiculous situation I’ve gotten myself into with The Foreign One (who btw won’t go away and after I ignored the phone he just rocked up at my door, but more later on that one). His girlfriend (and I really should use that term in the most liberal sense) has now caught him twice, and had it directly from the horses mouth so to speak. Yet she forgives and carries on. And I honestly can’t understand how or why she does it. He’s never there and when he is I don’t know why he bothers because he’s just texting me all the time. They literally do nothing together as a couple. The trust is probably gone and judging by his behaviour, so has the love. So why put up with that? Why not just pack your bags and get the hell out of there?

Because in today’s society, being single is viewed as wrong, abnormal, weird.

And that my friends is a fact. Being single is catching (and I’ve wrote about this before), and it’s something that nobody wants to catch.

Single people are treated differently to married people and those in what is considered a serious relationship. But how many of those people are in happy relationships? And how many are just turning a blind eye so they don’t have to be alone? So (and sorry I say this from a female point of view, because obviously I’m not a bloke) why are so many women staying in loveless, unhappy relationships? Women want to be treated as equals yet we are miles apart from men on this one. Men and women cheat for different reasons, but women are more likely to forgive whereby men aren’t so forgiving.

The likes of footballers wife isn’t going to end up penniless, so why isn’t she kicking him to the curb and singing all the way to the bank? And the very pretty Imogen Thomas should be singing like a canary and making herself a nice few quid out of all of this. After all, he’s thrown his money at the legal system, to basically protect his cash hasn’t he?

My point being, that stories like this will carry on and on. It will go on in every street, in every town the world over. Simply because it’s just accepted, people turn a blind eye, and when they see their role models getting away with it they think they can too.

What ever happened to treating the ones you love with respect and not wanting to do a single thing that could hurt or upset them? It would appear that these days cheating is just part of the course of a lot of relationships. But why? Don’t we all know that you don’t cheat if you’re happy and love and respect your partner?

And yes I’m a fine one to talk given what happens with The Foreign One. But if I ever got wind of him referring to me as a mistake or an accident then he’ll damn well need more than a super injunction to silence me!