And Along Came Another

In my attempt to be the worlds worst blogger I thought I'd try and make it up to you with a gorgeous picture of George. Swoon!

So lets cut to the chase and straight down to business.

For the past few weeks I've been dating an older man. Yes, no need to rub your eyes and re-read that line, I ditched the younger man thing I've had going on for a while and finally got myself an older man - a whole ten years older! So you might think that my going older I'd have far less dating dramas and it would all run far smoother.

WHO THE F**K AM I KIDDING!!!!!!

It's just more complicated! Throw in an ex wife, a couple of teenage kids, a man that's been out of the dating game for 20 (!!!!!) years and trust me, it's actually more complicated. Not that I'm complaining, well yea, I suppose I am, he is ever so nice, has manners, dresses well, good job and all the trimmings, has the sexy dishy older man thing going on (hence the George picture) but you know what, dating older is damn hard work.

I suppose my reluctance to grow up and behave like an adult myself doesn't help matters much but when he met me I wasn't exactly behaving like a grown up so the signs should have been there that he wasn't getting involved with the type of woman that was going to sit home and be a domestic goddess. But he really doesn't get this whole modern day dating game. And sometimes I think he doesn't get that I'm not the ex wife. Sexy older man may well be sexy as hell, but that doesn't cut it when he doesn't get that dating today involves using a phone!

And we all know at this stage that I'm not the most patient person in the world, but I think it's not acceptable to leave my bed and then not call for nearly 3 days. We've been "dating" and sleeping together for a few weeks now, at what stage do I get to exact my authority, demand full relationship status and tell him it's unacceptable to not call for a few days, regardless of how much hassle he's getting from the ex wife or how stressed he is in work. And does a man of his age call me his girlfriend? Or do I become a partner? What is the correct terminology to use?

So dear readers, any advice for dating a man 10 years older?

A big moment will happen next week. It's a mutual friends wedding. We had both been invited anyway, the couple in question are actually the ones that set us up in the first place, so the question is now being raised; Do we go together, as a couple, like together as in together, or do we both go and arrange to meet there, not so together? In my opinion, there is a BIG difference between going together and just meeting there. I'm right aren't I? At this stage, to me, we should be going together, as in together. I am really fed up of having to go to all these weddings and couple types events and either taking small child as my plus one or rocking up as the random single friend and sitting amongst couples all damn day and night. I've been the odd one out at weddings for years now. And for the past year that this wedding has been planned the couple have gone on and on at me about finding a date for their wedding. So now, do I have one or not? Is it acceptable to get to Wednesday and if there are no firm plans in place to go together then do I find myself another date? At this stage it's not going to be a romantic date, more bringing along a male friend to save me from couple hell. And sexy older man will probably also be there - alone - but I think that if he doesn't make the plans to actually take me, as in arrive together, then he shouldn't have the pleasure of my company at this important event to me.

I went on a bit there didn't I, but I guess you get the message. And I guess that by taking such actions I will probably be putting the kiss of death on this relationship but hey, I think I deserve to be taken and not just met up with, to an event that does mean a lot to me. Again, it's a step up or step away type of thing.

Some day I might actually get this dating / relationship thing right. But not anytime soon I guess.